Melim Psychology and Coaching
Awareness through(out) Change.
Sometimes, it seems to me like all we do in live is telling stories…
We tell stories about ourselves, about who we are, what we do, what matters to us, what we like and identify with, what we don’t like, what we fear…
Perhaps the all point of life is to tell as story that ultimately feels worth telling and to look back and find coherence in our narrative.
The problem is, when something happens and
We stop being the authors of our life stories.
Did you ever feel this way? Like the story being told about you is not right, that plot is confusing or unfulfilling, that the same patterns or characters repeat over and over, filling you with complicated emotions.
If you ever felt this way, what did you do then?
Now take a moment to imagine how you would feel if you could have a story that feels worth telling? That you are proud of?
What sort of events can lead to changes in people’s life story?
Both sudden and unexpected changes and anticipated transitions can leave us feeling a little bit lost.
We might be caught off guard by the effects of that transition and even feel like we are losing touch with our wiser selves, that is, the parts of us that have our highest values, goals and dreams in mind.
The good news is, moments of great confusion can lead to the greatest change. I have written an article about that. If you would like to read more: click here.
Here are some of the life transitions I have supported clients through:
Trauma-Related Transitions
Events that have abruptly changed you life, such as accidents, assaults, or significant loss.
Existential or Identity Transitions
Shifts in how you see yourself, your identity, your values and your place in the world.
Relationship Changes
Transitions such as breakups, marriage, or adjustments within a long-term relationship.
Relocation or Cultural Adjustment
Adaptation to moving to a new city /country, managing homesickness, social isolation, and cultural adaptation.
Midlife Transitions
Questions around purpose, career satisfaction, or personal fulfilment, addressing “empty nest” syndrome, or shifts in life focus.
Health-Related Changes
Health challenges, new diagnoses, or chronic illness, emotional and practical adjustment to a new lifestyle.
Career Shifts and Retirement
Managing stress, uncertainty, or identity changes associated with job changes, promotions, career transitions, or the transition out of the workforce.
Loss and Bereavement
Loss of loved ones, grief and meaning-seeking.
Parenthood
Changes in identity, relationship dynamics, and emotional challenges tied to the transition into parenthood.
My approach to support
In one paragraph: What I like to do is to connect with you, understand where you are at, and then help you find your way back into your own inherent power, so you can write new chapters for your life in a way that feels right to you.
I seem to have come into this life with a seemingly unquenchable thirst to learn!
I have tried to make the best of it by engaging in extensive training on various tools and approaches like: schema therapy, imagery-guided and story telling techniques and hypnotherapy.
I have then combined those approachs to create my own technique.
It comes in handy that, as an academic researcher, I am always looking to put my theories and techniques to the test with empirical research. I have completed a PhD on how people navigate times of change and how they can use those times for positive growth. You can find some of my published research here.
Background
Before becoming a psychologist (and during my university years) I did theatre for a long a while, ever since I was little. I also always loved to read and write, to connect with nature, specially through mountain hikes and boat trips. I think I was always searching for ways to learn more about the world, and others worlds, and the people in them.
I was born in the beautiful Madeira Island, Portugal, which will always be a home to me. With such mesmering mountains and deep ocean blues as you can see in the picture here.
I will always love the ocean and feel connected to it. And at the same time, I had a thirst to cross it, to learn and grow, and understang things beyond my own immediate and familiar surroundings.
So I went to study abroad, and then met my husband who is from South America, and later moved to the south of Germany, where I started to work with clients coming from all parts of the world and collaborating with colleagues from all sorts of cultures.
I am incredibly fortunate to do what I love and there is not a single client that doesn’t make a significant impact on my life’s narrative, the same as I hope to make in theirs.
Why should we have it all figured out?
Life is inherently about change and transformation, so if you feel lost and confused, perhaps you are doing something right!
I share exercises weekly to hopefully promote moments of connections and reflection
Find the latest reflection exercise below!
Please make sure that whatever I might suggest here is right for you.
Reading about a topic or engaging in a self-discovery exercise through a video you find online can be exciting and valuable. At the same time, this is not the same as receiving support that is individualised and takes your particular needs into account. Please, remember that when engaging with this page.
If you feel like you need more, use the contact form to ask for an initial interview with me at reduced cost.
Modalities and Fees
Individual sessions
€65 (+IVA) per 50 min session
Individual sessions provide a space to explore challenges, gain insight, and develop tools taking your personal point of you, experience and resources into account.
Couple sessions
€85 (+IVA) per 75 min session
Couple sessions offer a shareed space to strengthen connection, improve communication, and navigate challenges together for a healthier, transparent connection.
Webinars /Workshops
Coming soon.
Webinars and workshops provide practical tools to support growth, relational skills, and resilience through interactive discussions. Would you like to be informed about upcoming events?
I believe transparency matters. If you’re wondering how session fees are defined and what they support, you can read more about it here.
*Flexible Fee Options:
I understand that getting support is an important investment in your well-being, but financial concerns can sometimes create barriers to starting or continuing care. To make services accessible to a wider range of clients, I offer a sliding scale option based on financial need. If you’re interested in exploring this option, please don’t hesitate to reach out, and we can discuss a rate that works for your unique circumstances.
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